Monday, August 19, 2013
SURPRISE opportunity!
A couple of weeks ago we sent in our entire homestudy packet. I still needed to finish and fine tune our profile. And Jay and I talked about working on our video profile. But we were pretty much on schedule to where we wanted to be. Our plan was to be officially homestudy ready by October 1, 2013. That was the plan.
Then this past Friday (August 16), I received a call from Shannon, our family advocate at STAR. I was shopping in Target on my lunch break. I didn't think anything of seeing her call because we had just spoken the day before about incoming references. But then she said, "I actually am calling you about a profile opportunity.". Um, WHAT?! Seriously?! I mean, we are not even officially waiting yet. I started thinking, well, this has got to be an extremely risky situation, because why else would they be calling a family that isn't yet homestudy approved?
Shannon asked if I had a pen and paper, and since I was in the store I didn't. I quickly checked out and rushed to my car and found a pen and paper. I called Shannon back and started scribbling down the details as quickly as she provided them. To sum up- expectant mom is 21 year old Hispanic/Caucasian young woman. Expectant dad is 27 years old and African American. She wants an extremely open adoption and for the adoptive family to see the open adoption as a welcomed relationship, instead of a burden. I waited for the "bad" news, the risks, the reason they'd call US and not just use already waiting families. But there were no red flags. Nothing that even brought me pause. Shannon told me that because of C's focus on a good open relationship, and because of our family's experience with, and love of, open adoption, they thought this would be a great match! Um, YES!
The catch - we had to finish up our profile and get it to STAR by Tues August 20. Totally doable.
So, I very excitedly called Jay and relayed all the info. He was a bit in shock at the fact that we even got called. Again, we are not officially waiting so in no way were we ever expecting any calls until at least October. But we very quickly agreed that we wanted to be profiled. I quickly called Shannon back to let her know and then I started sending a few obnoxiously elated text messages to my sister and a few friends.
That evening after work, we got together with Jason's family, including some out of town relatives. It was a nice night. But Jay and I both had a hard time not being distracted by our utter excitement and nervousness. I just kept thinking about how I needed to get home and finish the profile.
One other call I made was to Andrew's birthmom. She had wanted to include something in our profile so I had to tell her she needed to do it ASAP. She could tell how excited I was and agreed she wanted to contribute some words.
Fast forward to the rest of the weekend. I finished the profile, including some sweet words from Drew's birthmom and his birth great-grandmother. I am happy with the end result. I put a big focus on open adoption, and hope that C sees how committed we are to these relationships. She will view our profile, along with possibly 8 others, tomorrow afternoon. EEEEEK!!!!
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